What are We Teaching?

I was truly bothered by some of the news that I saw headlining my internet browser this morning...Octomom in a bikini (hasn't this troubled woman had enough attention?); Heidi Montaug's 10 plastic surgeries that she is proud of; and a NYT's editor calling beautiful actresses "fat".  All three of these "newsworthy items" teach our children a dangerous message...you are not enough!  On the principle of it, I refuse to provide any links to these menacing articles.

First, I don't believe that the so-called "Octomom" needs any more attention.  At least...no media attention. Perhaps attention from a medical professional would be appropriate.  Second, while the ABC News interview with Heidi Montaug clearly illustrates that most of society believes her 10 surgeries in one day are NOT what anyone should be proud of, she still received the attention.  Teens of both sexes can see this and only pay attention to the fact that if you don't like the way you look, just get it fixed.  I am not necessarily opposed to someone getting plastic surgery done--but as a celebrity (and I use that word loosely) who has the attention of many teens, she is sharing a dangerous message.  Self esteem is already an issue that puberty plays havoc with in teens.  And promoting the concept of "the magic bullet" just adds to the problem. Finally, I am truly angered that a journalist would make the kind of libelous statements that were made after the awards shows last weekend.  While no names were directly associated with the post, the editor/journalist clearly chose a specific photo of three beautiful actresses to highlight the post.

What message is our media sending?  I believe as parents we are all responsible to do what we can to help our children and teens receive the right message for them.  My 14-year old son asked me this morning if I saw any of this news...and thankfully he shared his distaste for each of these stories.  While I am sure he can appreciate a beautiful woman (even though that thought frightens me!) I am also proud that he recognizes when someone has gone too far--and does not buy into the media's fascination with these things.  Guess we did something right afterall!